Of personal spaces

From when I have been married I have always wondered what the protocol of the spouse with one s friends should be. Is it considered acceptable to take your spouse along when you meet friends or is it something one is supposed to clear with the friends first?

Some of my friends now are actually my hubby's. But even saying that I know that there are some friends of my hubby's whom I don't know that well and am never sure if joining my hubby while meeting them is a good idea or not.

Where do you draw the line between socializing versus intruding the spouse's personal rapport with friends?

Cuckold ('ka-culled')

I recently read Cuckold by Kiran Nagarkar and only just found out it means ' husband of an unfaithful wife' and also that it is pronounced 'ka-culled' and not 'cook-cold' .

I heard of Kiran Nagarkar when he had come to the book club in office to promote his new book The Extras.I have read his other books Ravan and Eddie and The Extras. Although the other books were good , Cuckold is clearly his best work.

There are numerous quotes in the book that are memorable and one of my favorite is the following :
' We were newly married, both madly in love, me with her and she with someone else '.

The book tracks the story of Bhoj Raj,the Maharaj Kumar , the heir apparent to throne of Chitoor and his travails in securing the throne as well as the dilemma in being married to the little saint, Meerabai.

Defining the genre of this book is difficult . It is a good mix of history, fiction, war, philosophy and this is the reason why this book is so intriguing.
Read it if you get a chance!

'Missing sweet tooth'

Cooking is interesting for me only when I like to eat the dish I make. I feel no motivation to make things for others , if the dish is something I don't particularly care to eat. As I type this , I squirm knowing how selfish it sounds. But the truth is that the motivation for my cooking isn't love for another person, more a sense of anticipation for eating what I like.

Am not particularly fond of sweets and I find them laborious to make  compared to savory dishes and hence can never feel motivated enough to want to make them. As fate would have it, my hubby's family thrives on sweets and somehow can't get myself to share the enthusiasm for making or eating sweets with them.

Should I be making an attempt to learn to make sweets for my hubby or should I just be telling him as an equal partner ' I don't particularly care for it but still summoning all my love for you...I will join you in your attempts in the kitchen '?

Wanderlust

Sometimes I feel like I am bitten by the wander-bug and feel an urgent sense to travel - take a vacation, go sightseeing, do all the regular touristy stuff. But at other times I do feel travel is overrated thing.Since it has become so common and what with people putting up pics of every damn vacation they take in their best costumes and the best smiles - I have grown disenchanted with the whole travel thing.It seems like the aim of a vacation is to let the world know you are cool and do "cool" stuff than really enjoying the break.

Maybe I am cynical - even jealous that I don't do any of the cool stuff. But all that I ever seem to want on long weekends is to stay home, snuggle up in bed with a nice book , eat good food and sleep for hours.If a holiday entails doing all this with an infinity pool and mountains surrounding you , then why not... sounds like a perfect fit!

So hubby are you reading this? Take me on a vacation soon with the infinity pool, great food and mountains!