Equality in marriages

After marriage I have been forced to become a champion for woman's rights, forever keeping a tab on whether there is equality in the true sense in my marriage. All these years, while I was still single I have never felt the need to be a feminist barring the instances when the curfew time for being a girl was much lesser than that of other boys my age.But off late every task I do makes me ponder ' Am I expected to do this because I am the female in the relationship? '. This attitude tires you and makes you more irritable at having to even keep a tab on something that you believe is actually a birthright.

What makes this situation difficult is that it is not the husband who makes you feel this. It is the expectations of a role of a woman in society that completely bogs you down. To elaborate let me quote an example. While it is completely acceptable for the guy to go to some family get together in shorts, it still isn't ok for the girl to do the same. Jeans is probably still acceptable but it irritates to know that people point it out when you aren't conforming to the standards these people set.

One can fight it by being the rebel which I largely feel I am. But having to even fight it annoys me and makes me wonder if the only way there will be equality in a relationship is in same sex marriages. At least then you probably won't get invited to social events and society can't stereotype roles and expectations if both of you are females.