The Art of Letting Go!

Disclaimer: This post is going to a rant! You can stop reading now if do not wish to hear me complain and then contemplate on it.

How many times has someone been condescending towards you or even said something to you that didn't go down well with you? Are you the kind of person who stands up and tells a person that you didn't like what they said? Or are you the silent sufferer who can't let it go but can't tell the person you have a problem either? I do a little bit of both and find that neither is helpful. Over time this translates into an excel in my head with a list of grudges against people. What is frustrating is I cannot let go. Every time I think about these incidents I get angry mainly at myself that it still affects me so much.

How does one let go? How does one forgive when you haven't been apologized to? How do you ask for an apology from a person who doesn't even know he has hurt you? I lose respect for people and trust me it is very difficult for my excel to get updated with renewed respect.

The solution, as my hubby says, is to not think about these things at all. But I ain't wired that way and need an outlet to let things go. Ranting helps a little but it isn't enough to just reset the excel in my head and start afresh.

Beautiful places of worship

All of a sudden a lot of travel fell in place and I have been quite touristy.I have happened to visit some places of worship and they have interested me enough to dedicate a blog to them.Am usually not an advocate for visiting any religious sites but these ones were really beautiful.

Place 1 : Grand Mosque, Abu Dhabi
I visited Abu Dhabi and saw the most beautiful mosque.While driving from the airport to Abu Dhabi,the lit up mosque far from the road piqued my interest. I immediately enquired about it and decided to visit it the next morning.It was magnificient with white arches tastefully decorated and extravagant chandeliers hanging in the prayer room.

 

Sheikh Zayed Grand Mosque - Side view

 

 

           Reflective pools surround the mosque, amplifying its beauty.

 

 

Such an extravagant mosque has been built which is open to all and so much money has been spent on it. But still the entry to this place of worship is free for all and best part is no attempt is made to recover the money spent on making this beautiful mosque.This mosque has a strict dress code and women have to to wear Abaya if they arent covering thier heads.

Me in Abaya under the chandelier

 

This is one of the world's largest mosques and houses the world's largest hand knitted carpet in the prayer room.Sheikh Zayed after whom this mosque is named is buried here.

 

Place 2: Basilica Nuestra Señora del Pilar, Buenos Aires

 

A large and beautiful gleaming white church Basilica Nuestra Señora del Pilar is the oldest church of Buenos Aires which has an architecture of Baroque style. Considered one of the best-preserved examples of Argentine colonial architecture, the church was built by the Franciscan Recoleto in 1732 and is the adjacent to the famous Recoleta cemetery. Its ornate silver altar, tile work and chapels deserve more than a quick look. There is an Inca style sun made in silver in front of the main altar.

 

Outside the church on weekends is a flea market of sorts where you get on sale - souvenirs to hand crafted jewellery. A stroll in this park converted into a market is interesting for all the knick knacks up for the sale and in general to observe the many visitors to this market.

 

Of goodbyes

Year after year, the time comes for me to say goodbye to another friend and it never gets easier. Slowly you make new friends and hang out with different people. It is quite a shame how resilient we humans are and how quickly we move on.

This post is dedicated to you my friend for having spent innumerable hours over coffee talking about books, relationships, life in general, politics and everything else under the sun.This is a thank you post for the long walks after lunch, for cribbing but still working together, for dragging me to the book reading sessions (which by the way I absolutely loved), for telling me and taking me to plays, for making me try a new cuisine ;) and most important of all for putting up with my general ramblings.

Adios my pal... You shall be greatly missed!

B'day Ruminations!

 "Well, birthdays are merely symbolic of how another year has gone by and how little we've grown. No matter how desperate we are that someday a better self will emerge, with each flicker of the candles on the cake, we know it's not to be; that for the rest of our sad, wretched pathetic lives, this is who we are to the bitter end. Inevitably irrevocably; happy birthday? No such thing." - Seinfeld

Here is my analysis of "me" this year -

• Am a lot more dependent on others than I would like to be.
• I love "solitary time" - a day or two in a month.
• I prefer brunches to late night parties.
• I like writing - more than I thought I liked initially.
• I am now officially a red-wine gal.
• I hate nagging, my hubby forces me to - but I do not enjoy it.
• I day-dream a lot - could be in front of you, nodding my head, but not registering a word you say!
• Love the idea of travel more than the travel itself.
• Live my life loving the retrospect and not usually liking the present!
• My rate of hoarding books far exceeds the pace of my reading.
• Love the lazy sunday afternoon introspection time - lying in bed with a book but not really reading, but pondering about life in general before falling into a nice slumber. 
• I love talking about myself/my life more than anything else.

'From the Eye of my mind'

'From the eye of my mind' by TGC Prasad is a book with the protagonist being an 18 year old autistic girl. It is a charming story of love,acceptance and of a beautiful mind.Reading a book like this does make one question one s problem in the scheme of things in the world. I wonder if I can remember every time I am angry, this lesson of acceptance and adapting to the loved ones around you.

I recently attended the India Inclusion Summit held in Bangalore and was moved by the speeches by some eminent personalities. Kaushik Roy,an advertising professional spoke about his movie 'Apna Aasman' and how he came to terms with his son being special. I watched the full movie recently and it is beautiful. Movies like this and books like 'From the eye of my mind' are very important to spread awareness about Autism and will go a long way in ensuring social acceptance for the special kids and their families.

Read the book, watch the movie and spread the awareness. Come on do your bit!

Insignifia!

“I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was a famous poet and another fig was a brilliant professor, and another fig was Ee Gee, the amazing editor, and another fig was Europe and Africa and South America, and another fig was Constantin and Socrates and Attila and a pack of other lovers with queer names and offbeat professions, and another fig was an Olympic lady crew champion, and beyond and above these figs were many more figs I couldn't quite make out. I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree, starving to death, just because I couldn't make up my mind which of the figs I would choose. I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground at my feet.”

- Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar.

Even after supposedly being settled in life, I still am clueless about what I want from life and have many of the figs that Slyvia Plath talks about.Also with each passing year they are withering away. As a child I wanted to be a psychiatrist and I recall having written a poem about it in class 7.Then later an uncle, who is an astrologer, told me I'll make a good lawyer after seeing my horoscope.I decided then if my stars have destined me to be a lawyer I should try to become one. AllyMcBeal , the show about a corporate lawyer further fuelled this dream.And then came class 12 and I ended up taking exams for many streams -law,engineering,arts,management . After this I guess I stopped worrying about what I want and went with the flow and here I am now a software engineer, not sure if this was even a fig that I wanted.

I am always in a dilemma whether letting things be and going with the flow is a sign of mediocrity-settling for the 'ordinary' or is this what people call stability and inner peace? I can't say I have a burning ambition to be extraordinary, but if I did have some such skills now would be a good time to know it:)

On-site @ home

I often feel like being alone and have been a "non-implementer preacher of the ME time". I crave for some time alone but the me time in practice is less intriguing than the idea of it. Its fun to have me time when you know company is just across the hall or a room away.

This month for me is a time to test my theory and decide once and for all whether I am a comfortable introvert who can spend time with oneself and still enjoy it or am I always craving for company? My hubby isn't in the country nor are my parents and I have decided to spend a month alone and decide whether I like it or not. I intend to consider it as an on-site trip at home!

I took a quiz to find out if I am actually craving for some me time and here s what I found :

You are on the edge of overwhelm

You are skirting on the edge of overwhelm but it's not too late to bring balance into your life. Rearrange some of the items on your calendar to give yourself some breathing room. Bring in some ‘prairie’ where there are currently ‘city streets’

Note to self : I am gonna be spending a lot of time with you. You had better be fun! :)